For several months no one knew I had a blog. Not my mother, not my best friends, not even my grandmother (who is my biggest writing cheerleader). Why? Because I was afraid I was going to get a negative response and, although it sounds melodramatic now, laughed at. I was afraid of being vulnerable. Have you ever wanted to do something but other people’s possible opinions tripped you up? Were you being Anxiety Girl, able to jump to the worst conclusion in a single bound?
It might just be me, but I doubt it.
I hate to be trite but it must be said: If someone truly cares about you they’ll be on your team (see: no negative responses or laughter). Besides, if you have a big dream with a big game plan to match you’ve got to tell as many people as possible so it can indeed come to fruition- secret success is a bit of an oxymoron, no?
I finally decided to stop worrying about, say, what that “ahead-of-the-game” hipster acquaintance of mine might think about my writing, and now that I’ve gone public with ye olde blog I’ve actually received a lot of positive feedback. I know that’s not guaranteed or always the outcome (or even the point) but it highlights what a waste of energy my previous apprehension was.
The bottom line is- I’m enjoying cultivating this site no matter the nature of people’s reactions because I love to write, and this post is an attempt to save people from wasting time like I did. I encourage you to be proactive and to stop agonizing over what other people might think about something you’ve been wanting to do. If you take a step back and look at the big picture you realize how silly it is to let other people’s idle opinions discourage you, anyway.
Surround yourself with other positive go-getters. Be unapologetically passionate about doing something you want to do and go for it.